smile and the world smiles with you. so it is best to put yourself in this state of mind. keep the bar that you have imagined as the level of accomplishments and lower it just so. keep it there, we need something to judge from, but don’t move it way up there. when you go on a vacation, be happy if you don’t get robbed or have a huge accident. if you make your flights you should be ecstatic. 

unfortunately you cannot have all of one side. the good and bad must come as one. the days get dark, the cold rolls in. things fall apart, the flight takes off and you are at the gate looking at it. anger and sadness set in. embrace them. for you know that it is at the bottom of the pendulum where things can only go up. and away you go. back up, one inch at a time. the happiness is amazing as you know what the bottom was like. you keep climbing. as the days get really good, the worry sets in. for you know, with all the past experiences and moments, that you must descend. that all the waves have two sides, that even in a perfect storm there are moments when the winds must break, and there in all its light is the happiness again.