we do not change into what others want us too. our children, although influenced, will become their own soul with their own personality firmly attached. they will either be able to navigate the world well, gaining friends and contracts in business, or they will do mediocre or possibly fail. we have little choice in its matter.
like the plants in our garden, we can give them fertiliser and all the sunshine and rain, and for the most part this is enough. but droughts, bugs and other things can change the rate of their growth. it is natural.
and this is fine.
if you accept things and people for how they are, the easier it is for you to accept your own life in relationship to them. life had given them cards, and put them in the game that they are playing, you simply can only observe. helping from here and there sometimes seems to change the situation, but if you are not careful that help with come back to bite you.
like putting too much salt into a bland dish, the outcome might overtake the original dish.
i find this feeling comforting. like letting go of something, or deciding that you had done enough, life is hard enough to change on our own, we should not be trying to change the others.
on another note:
the stock market had the largest drop ever in percentage points today and i am fascinated with this video of a gal that makes all her own music, just walking down the street singing her own fight song: