listened to a favorite personality today, a man by the name of jordan d. peterson, he seems to me a very rational person, but to others he is a bit of a lighting rod of controversy. the reason being is that he will not let society change his philosophy on what is right or wrong. he will hold his corner on whatever is being debated, use his psychological and doctoral methods to define what he is trying to say and argue to the point that the other side, love it or hate it, will give into what he is arguing. here he is on bbc arguing about whether or not women deserve to be paid equally compared to men:
i like the way he will not simply give into the other sides argument, but will also be a bit flexible to allow the other point to have a say. this is very important politically and allows both parties to walk away with a feeling of a win. remember, if one party wins, then the other side loses, and this is not what you want in a society unless you are ready to take over the other side. rather, points are made and references are looked at, but no side wins or loses.
in a relationship this is also important. balance. compromise, but on both sides. give a little. win a lot.